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I Know Everything, a teen driving safety campaign #JustDrive

 

 

I Know Everything JustDrive Campaign for Teen Driver Safety Week

Young adults, teens especially, can feel invincible. Even immortal. Life is peachy. It’s a combination of freedom but without too much responsibility.

You don’t need someone to watch you cross the street, or buckle you in a car seat. You can buy your own Starbucks with your friends, go to a movie kinda late and not miss bedtime.

And when you get your license to drive- oh boy! The world is your oyster.

But let’s just remember what driving actually means.

It’s not a status symbol. It’s not your ticket to being cool. It isn’t a chick magnet. It is you moving a 2 ton vehicle along at speeds not humanly possible.

It is a means to get from point A to point B. That’s it.

And grownups- listen up- I’m talking to you too. I don’t care about your raised up chassis or your fancy rims. I just want you to pay attention when you’re behind the wheel!

I’m proud to be part of the IKnowEverything.com campaign from the Foundation for Advancing Alcohol Responsibility.

The number one cause of teen deaths in the U.S. is traffic accidents.

Let me repeat that.

The number one cause of teen deaths in the U.S. is traffic accidents.

Well that just makes the hairs on the back of my neck stand up.

I always tell my kids that I have to be paying attention while I’m driving to make up for the folks on the road that aren’t.

Please take a couple minutes to watch the following PSA. Even better, watch it with your teens.

And remember #JustDrive. Don’t do anything else behind the wheel.

 

 

Even better than brown paper packages tied up with string

Like the song says, these are a few of my favorite things.

PRESENTS!

I am not one of those folks that writes ‘no gifts please’ on an invite.

Is it because I’m a Leo? Is it my status as the baby of the family? I love presents.

And if it is a present wrapped in something beautiful, like Martha Stewart beautiful, then all the better!

However, as of late, my wrapping and gift presentation abilities of my own are sadly waning. It’s as if I’m the George Costanza of gift givers and reusing an old gift bag from Great Aunt Edna seems acceptable. Let me just disclose that Aunt Edna passed away in 2005 and she probably had kept all her gift bags from before 1987. I suppose it depends upon your recipient. Would my 18 year old nephew care if he got a birthday gift in a sad, dog-eared Christmas bag from 1998? Probably not. But would my best friend from 5th grade mind? YES.

Also, lately, I’ve become somewhat forgetful. So if I remember the person’s birthday or that it’s Father’s Day the following weekend, and I can just get myself to come up with a decent gift, the wrapping and packaging of said gift is a whole other challenge!

But not to fret. The subscription box gods have answered our calls. We not only get monthly boxes for makeup, pet snacks, or the time of the month(!) we can get gift wrap subscription packages of carefully selected artisan papers, bows, tags, cards and tissue!

Artistry Gift Wrap asked me if I would like a package of gift wrap? Uhm, would I like a package? See above. Heck yes, I’d like a package!

So I was able to try a beautiful array of papers, get this, made of limestone! I don’t know how it is done, and it assures me on the label that it is eco friendly. But honestly, this is the most amazing gift wrap paper I have ever seen. It cuts beautifully. Doesn’t tear and is sturdy as all get.

Not only that, but her package came to me back when it was my wedding anniversary, and in it, was the perfect anniversary card I gave McSweetie!

I should have let him use that card for me since he’s a little bit slacking on his gift planning. Did I tell you the time when we went to the opera for our anniversary and during intermission he said he needed to ‘go to the car’ and instead he really needed to hoof it to the corner store to find an anniversary card for me because he had FORGOTTEN up until that point? Oh, well, there. I just told you the story. That guy. What a goof. Because he needed to go through all that trouble to just sign a card that with his usual, “Love you sweetie, James”  Yes, I’ve looked through at least a dozen cards that are all signed the same way. No more, no less. HUSBANDS.

Okay, back to gift wrap.

Please check out the website- Artistry Gift Wrap. You can choose a subscription plan that suits you. Is it more than heading to Walgreens or Target for a roll of paper? Yes. BUT- it is like nothing in the stores, and you get a selection tailored to the season or your preferences. Tell her Frugie sent you and I’m sure she’ll pack your box with extra care.

How cool is that?

Here’s the products I received: (not all subscription months or paper styles are the limestone paper, just FYI.)

Frugie blog Reviews Artistry Gift Wrap, limestone papers, subscription gift wrap to your door

Frugie Blog for Artistry Gift Wrap, subscription box of luxury gift wrap to your door each month

I received product for this post in exchange for this review. Thank you.

Bronze-y eye and Bold Lip Tutorial for fall

I am loving all the fall colors and palettes in makeup right now. As rich as the salted caramel latte I ordered, so is the new palette from Sephora by MAKE UP FOR EVER.

Frugie Bronzey Eye and Bold lip tutorial for mature faces, makeup over 40, autumn looks, beauty

I dig in and throw caution to the wind, playing with shiny shades and dark lips. Ooh. Want to see?

And as always, I’ve tailored this for a ‘mature’ face, so nothing too over the top.

Check it out:

The deformity I didn’t even know I had

Ladies- you thought your muffin top was a problem, wait until you start obsessing over your banana roll.

Banana rolls are a thing by Frugie Blog

photo credit Vox Efx

What’s a banana roll? Well, contrary to what you might think it is not the latest Pinterest treat to enjoy with your pumpkin spiced latte.

Although that does sound tasty.

It is the latest body obsession that we can thank bodacious babes like Nicki Minaj, Kim Kardashian and Iggy Azalea for. In the year of the butt, which let’s face it folks, has been every year for me, (ahem) we not only want to power out our lunges but now we can surgically take our upper thigh fat and place it in our booties. Well, not ‘we’, but plastic surgeons can.

A banana roll is an ‘unsightly’ (gasp) roll of fat just under the butt cheek. Because butt cheeks are made of fat. Duh.

Let’s just sit on this for a sec. Big butts are in. That’s cool. I always have appreciated a Kardashian backside. I will watch Keeping up the Kardashians just so I can feel better about my proportionally larger posterior.

But(t) not only are big butts in, a certain kind of ass is in. A large, perfectly round ass that has no folds or flaws that sits atop skinny thighs. Because THAT’S realistic (sarcasm font). A lollipop of a butt on a skinny leg. If you tell me that all of this is obtained WITH a thigh gap, I might have to punch someone.

What’s a thigh gap? Never mind.

The problem with celebrity culture bringing out ‘trends’ in body type is people become obsessed with unreal objectives.  These objectives achieved with plastic surgery, in the form of liposuction, that could be dangerous or reverse itself over time, aren’t worth it. Y’all know that Nicki Minaj got butt implants right? That’s not even her real ass! So if you’re trying to undo your banana roll with just your normal non-bionic butt, you’re probably not going to get the results you want in the first place.

According to the UK’s Daily Mail, some surgery clinics have seen business triple when it comes to sucking banana rolls from women’s backsides.

Well, it’s comforting to know the ladies of London have just as much insecurity as the rest of us. Geezus.

What is wrong with a flat ass? There’s a whole continent of folks with flat asses.

Let’s all mourn for the poor thing that thinks her butt is ‘deformed’ that posted her question on realself.com. The picture she posts shows a perfectly formed booty in my opinion. Nothing deformed about it!

You’ve read my rantings about body image before.

I can only handle so much the media, celebrity culture, and superficial masses are dishing out.

You’re thinking, “Gee Frugie, why not just shut up about it, ignore it and go on with yourself?”

Aww, where would the fun in that be?

Folks. I will not be getting lipo for my banana roll. Sure, it’s a stubborn bump of fat that sits under my butt cheek. Guess what?
You know what else is under my butt cheek? Cottage cheese.

Not like the real cottage cheese, but the proverbial dotty clumpy cellulite cottage thigh cheese. Yes, so pretty, I know.

I have been doing lunges and squats like crazy lately. Not because I want some pop star booty, but because working my glutes is a major muscle group that burns calories and gets my heart rate up. Plus, it makes my legs strong if I have to squat over porta potties in an emergency. I got me some serious butt game, no surgery.

I like to think of my body as a buffet; from my chicken-wing arms, to the muffin top cupcake fold in the middle, the now-labeled banana roll and of course, cottage cheese thighs.

And guess what- it’s all delicious THANKYOUVERYMUCH.

 

 

Frozen Halloween Costume Giveaway

Halloween is nearly here, and I’m teaming up with Kandoo and some of my favorite bloggers on Instagram to co-host an epic Frozen Halloween costume giveaway.

Frozen IG Contest

Do your kids love Halloween? Are they obsessed with Frozen? We’re giving away three Frozen Halloween costumes and a $100 Amazon Gift card!

Frozen IG Contest Prizes

Enter Now!

Complete the form below to enter. Four winners will be chosen to receive one of the prizes. Must be 18 years of age to enter. Giveaway ends at Midnight on Saturday, October 11, 2014.

Be sure to Instagram your kids in their favorite Halloween costumes using #FrozenHalloween. We’ll see you there!

Whether you’re trying to potty train your toddler or you just want your older kids to wash their hands every time, be sure to visit Kandoo for great tips, tricks and products for naturally clean fun!

Drugstore Haul and the latest frugal finds!

Frugalista-Blog-drugstore-haul-video-featuring-Target-Rimmel-Milani-and-more.

It’s time for another round of What I Found At the Drugstore!

I am always on the hunt for goodies. I’ve got new things from Milani shadows, Rimmel lipstick, Sonia Kashuk and more.

Don’t forget to subscribe to my YouTube channel if you haven’t already done so. Let me know if you’ve found anything recently you love too.

We have a serious problem

“1 in 4 women in college today has been the victim of rape, and nearly 90% of them
knew their rapist.”

The above statistic makes me sick to my stomach. I have a daughter that will be off to college in a few years. But I also have a son. And as much as I pray for her to stay safe and smart, I’m teaching him to not be a rapist.

The statistics and numbers are staggering. Alarming. The case of campus rape and assault has been in the news a lot lately. The president addressed it in a speech. Rutger University students are creating apps to have on mobile phones to keep women safe on campus.

There’s nail polish that changes color in a drink to detect if it’s been rufied.

That’s great. But we have a problem folks.

We’re not changing the culture of our society. As brutal as it sounds, and like describing a middle eastern third world country, we are a rape culture people.

The United States of America is still a rape culture.

Why?

Because we still put the responsibility on the woman to keep herself safe. The problem is we aren’t teaching our sons to NOT RAPE.

Now while I really appreciate these apps and I will probably have my daughter download them on her own phone (You can read about the apps here.) But it troubles me when I keep hearing of all these measures for women to protect themselves and I don’t hear how we’re changing our culture and society for men to protect women instead of victimizing them. Girls are responsible to not dress provocatively. They can’t wear short skirts to school or school dances. Heaven forbid a boy would be distracted. Girls need to be responsible to not drink too much at a party. They need to stick together in a group. They need to check in with their friends. Reasonable measures indeed. But how nice it would be if men were gentlemen. Saints even.

We need to change when even fashion can dictate what’s cool for guys.

What about male clothing that promotes rape? Can you believe there are shirts with that message?

Foulmouthshirts.com (I will not offer the link, you can take my word for it) has shirts on their website, mind you, in over 350 colors and font styles, that read,

“It’s not rape. It’s a snuggle with a struggle.”

Idakoos.com sells shirts that read “I Love Motionless Girls”

People. This is war.

We have to stop this. It’s a huge battle on a steep hill, but can we please instill in our boys to respect women?

I know it’s not fun to teach our kids the birds and the bees. I know the conversations can be awkward.

But we need to be straightforward about sex, boundaries and respect. We need to talk to them about porn and not to download it. Yes. It’s degrading to women. So be up front with your boys. Tell them that is not how people have sex.

Tell them what is not okay when it comes to dating a girl.

Can we show them that the Ray Rice’s of the world and the Kobe Bryants are not heroes. Yeah. Remember Kobe was found not guilty of raping that woman in a hotel room, but I don’t believe it for a second that he’s innocent.

But let’s focus back on the campus situation. Women working together to protect each other is a great thing. Yes. Apps, buddy systems, staying sober; all of it, is important.

These are necessary since according to the Department of Justice, a college campus of 10,000 students could experience as many as 350 rapes per year.

If those numbers are unsettling (I attended the University of Washington, a campus of 50,000 students, that’s a potential 2400 rapes per year.) and make you want to bring your pitch fork to your nearest university, then listen to this:

Every 21 hours there is a rape on a college campus.

43% of college men admit to using coercive behavior to have sex, ignoring the woman’s protest.

1 in 12 college men admit to fulfilling the prevailing definition of rape, but don’t consider themselves rapists.

Only 10% of victims even report the rape.

And this is only the surface folks. There’s more stats where these came from. Shall we grab our torches now?

Do women just run around being all victimy? Or are young men predators? I’m sure most of these sons are good kids in all other areas.  Clearly we aren’t doing enough to keep them from thinking this behavior is okay. That along with teaching them to hold doors open for ladies, we haven’t pointed out it’s not okay to hold them down for a ‘snuggle with a struggle’.

What has to change? Let’s not make it the woman’s job to protect herself.

Is it some good ol’ boys club that encourages this behavior? That ‘bro code’ is more important than the safety of their girlfriends, co-eds and friends?

We need to teach our sons what rape is and not to do it. That there is no ‘gray area’. Where are the good boys? The gentlemen? Where are the young men to intervene in these frat house or dorm room situations? Because what is more important than a can of pepper spray to a woman, is a man setting an example and pulling back the curtain on his friends’ repugnant behavior.

Frugalista Blog tells us we need to teach our boys not to rape

I’m sickened after hearing even some of our senators and state representatives that still think there’s some justifiable reason to rape a woman.

No. There’s not.

What if she’s drunk? Nope. Not then.

What if she’s passed out? Nope. Not then.

What if she’s wearing a short skirt and you’re kissing her? Nope.

What if she came over when your parents weren’t home and you both got naked? Not even then.

I’m telling you moms and dads- it’s time we teach our boys about how to band together and honor women, and not just teach our daughters where to kick a guy in the groin or buy her magic rufie nail polish.

Are you with me?

For more information and sickening statistics-

http://www.crisisconnectioninc.org/sexualassault/college_campuses_and_rape.htm

https://www.rainn.org/public-policy/campus-safety

Motherhood is hard. You Have No Idea

Sometimes at the fork in the road of motherhood, you see your toddler thrashing about the floor in a tantrum, raging over a denied cookie. You think back to when they were tiny, helpless infants. That was easier right? If only I could follow that other path into a time machine, go back when it was simpler.

Oh, that’s called Mommy Amnesia. An actual Web MD condition. Okay, not it’s not. You just think it was easier then. It wasn’t. Remember the midnight feedings?

You think it’s going to be easier when they’re older. It has to, doesn’t it?

But what happens when you turn over your keys to your 16 year old? That’s as hard as crowning during childbirth!

Oh “YOU HAVE NO IDEA”.

All the stages of motherhood have been covered in this video. Tell me what stage you relate to most!

This video was created for the loving promotion of Jen Mann’s book People I Want to Punch in the Throat: Competitive Crafters, Drop-off Despots and Other Suburban Scourges

Frugalista Blog in the video You Have NO Idea

High five! Beauty Box 5 September Box

I feel pretty, oh so pretty, and bright!

And I pity any girl who

DOESN’T GET BEAUTY BOX 5 SUBSCRIPTIONS!

I mean that in the nicest way possible.

 

Have a look what’s in this month’s box:

Nicka K New York Eyelight Crayon-

This is a creamy eyeshadow/eyeliner stick. I love that it’s retractable and its texture. The crazy purple pink will be a fun adventure to incorporate in my ‘green eyes that’ pop look with plums and violets.

Natural Style by FUBU Deep Conditioner and Co-Wash-

I haven’t tried this product yet but it sounds like my hair will love it. I don’t know what a Co-wash is. It says that it’s for curly haired girls. Maybe that’s why I don’t know, because I’m not a curly-haired girl. But with shea butter and paraben and sulfate free, this kind of deep moisture product makes me happy.

Sally Hansen Toe Spacers

I pretty much have enough toe spacers to start a nail salon. I’ll probably toss these in a goody or gift bag for one of my daughter’s friends. Dear Beauty Box 5- no more toe spacers!

My Beauty Spot Nail Polish

I received a true gold color that spreads on thick and looks solid. Fun for accents and patterns over other colors. What I wasn’t sure of was the smell. For a nail polish, it’s got a very strong scent. Like I spray painted the tool shed. We’ll see how I tolerate this!  But the color and coverage is great.

Chrislie Formulations 3-in-1 Eye Bright

Hold. The. Phone.

This is like Botox in a tube. Okay, I don’t have Botox, so I wouldn’t know if it was like that. But my eye area was fresher and brighter after I applied it, just like it said. AND it didn’t get chalky or pasty like some other lifting products do. Love.

There you have it.

Frugalista Blog Beauty Box 5 for September

I luv me some strays

If I had all the money in the world, I would adopt every cat, kitten, dog and puppy that needed a home. I would need a really big house. And lots of kitty litter. Plus, can you imagine the vacuuming? I barely keep up with the two furry critters that I have.

Interestingly enough, the only time I have ‘bought’ a kitten from a farm or breeder, it ended up dying within 6 weeks from FIP. Feline Infectious Peritonitis. A very contagious, deadly infection that has no cure.

It broke our hearts. So when we got a new kitty, what better way to adopt one than out of some guy’s van in a Safeway parking lot?

Almost like a crack deal in a back alley; he showed us the kitten, covered in fleas, barely old enough to be away from its mama. It was climbing over pizza boxes and Burger King wrappers on the floor of the back seat. We paid the guy 20 bucks for his trouble. Or maybe just to go buy more Whoppers with cheese. Who knows? It just seemed better to give him money for this whiny little fuzz ball.

We drove straight to the pet store and got all the flea products available.

We bathed him, dried him, combed his fleas off, and snuggled him. Boy he  was cute. And little.

I took him to the vets the next morning and sure enough he needed de-worming. Good Lord. How could such a little thing be so infested?

He was too little to climb the stairs to the laundry room where we kept the litter box. And the de-worming meds gave him the runs. So we set up a shoe box downstairs with litter. As soon as he would start to pop a squat, we put him in the little box. Ugh. It was nasty! Poor thing. He would sit there with his eyes closed pooping up a storm of nasty brown soft serve.

He had a few accidents on the couch. What had we gotten ourselves into?!

I’m not doing a very good job convincing you to adopt a stray, am I?!

Once the worming issue was taken care of and he could use the litter box upstairs, we settled in with life with a cat and our dog, Sophie, who we had also adopted years earlier.

If I told you the cat nursed on the dog would you believe me? Yeah. That was a little strange. He had mother issues for sure. The dog put up with it three times. After that, she growls whenever the cat comes near. Now I think SHE has issues.

The last time they were ever this close. Still a better love story than Twilight. #LUVSOME

The last time they were ever this close. Still a better love story than Twilight.

We named the cat Pluto because he was so tiny he looked like he was a tossed out planet in the solar system of cats. Well he showed us.

Now he’s a 20 pound regal beast. He thinks he’s so cool. Mostly he just sits around all day and eats. And eats. And sleeps. And knocks shit off the counters.

If I did ever run that shelter with all my fur babies found from dumpsters, freeways and minivans in parking lots, I would feed them all LUVSOME pet food.

The nice folks at LUVSOME sent me a switch kit to ‘wean’ Pluto off his fancy pants food that is super expensive and I have to go across town for. I got coupons for free dry food and wet food and did the switch. He’s not happy with change, but he’s also not happy with starving.

frugalista blog on #luvsom

So now I don’t have to go all over creation but can get LUVSOME at Kroger stores anywhere. There’s crude protein and meat meal and whole grains in their products, and better stuff than some humans eat!

You know what else I like about LUVSOME? Besides their incredible price and quality ingredients? They partner with Best Friends Animal Society www.bestfriends.org to help give all sweet furries loving homes.

See? We’re like minds LUVSOME and me! So go ahead and support them and then McSweetie doesn’t need me to complain about all the cat boxes I’d have to scoop.

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I was given product and compensation for this post by LUVSOME but all words and thoughts are my own. Thankyouverymuch.

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