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Uh oh. Your kid watched a scary movie- now what?

What to do if your kid watches a scary movie Frugalista Blog

I remember it a few summers ago. Owen was probably 9, maybe 10. He had been having lots of sleepovers at his friend’s house in the neighborhood. Staying up late playing video games, playing baseball in the cul de sac past dark; it was just easy to let him crash there. What I found out later is that sometimes they would watch a scary movie, something involving the paranormal. The other kids didn’t see the big deal. But Owen has never liked scary. Doesn’t like it when someone sneaks up on him, doesn’t want anything with ghosts or just that creepy factor. He watches all kinds of action and adventure films that don’t scare him. He says when they have fictional fantasy aspects, he can differentiate that it’s just a movie, it’s not real.

But in some paranormal films, the plot and storytelling are just TOO real. And you can really wonder what that sound was you heard downstairs, or are the lights playing tricks on you.

So. What do we do when our kid watches a movie that scares them and now they want to sleep with the lights on?

I have partnered with Grace Hill Media and Warner Bros. to bring you some tips on what to tell your kids and help them through this. Also, I have a GIVEAWAY for the grown ups that LOVE to see scary, intense movies with real plot lines and great story telling. The Conjuring 2 is opening Friday, June 10th and I’m looking forward to this sequel.

• The first thing you need to do is sit down with your child and give them the chance to discuss the film openly. Ask them what they saw, what they thought about it, and how it made them feel. Whatever you do, don’t make light of their fears or dismiss their feelings as silly or immature.

• Once their emotions have been aired, assure your son or daughter that this was only a story, just like the imaginary tales they may have seen in books or other action movies and cartoons. Bad things weren’t happening to real people – they were actors playing a pretend game, like they and their friends do.

• Reassure your child that you, as their parent, are dedicated to protecting them. Let them know that it is one of your most important jobs – ensuring they feel safe and are safe. Reinforce that message with plenty of hugs.

• If you are a Christian family, you can explain that God has promised to be with them at all times, even in the midst of danger. Read some Bible verses together that show comfort and protection. Pray with them about the scary movie and their fears, and encourage them to pray on their own when they become frightened at night. If it seems appropriate, you can also practice some coping techniques with them, like deep breathing relaxation exercises or visualizing a happy place.

What we did for Owen was talk to him about his fears during day time. Waiting until it was right before bed seemed to remind him of the images he saw in the film. I explained that there’s special effects and people on the set that are either waiting behind walls or in a control booth that create the images and situations for us on screen. We see the finished product set to music and it just plays with our emotions. Those people in the movie got up and laughed after the director yelled “CUT” and went to go have lunch. Also, we let him sleep with as many lights on, night lights on and stuffed animal fortresses that he wanted. I also used lavender oils and some aromatherapy and breathing techniques like mentioned above.

He is 13 now and will still not go to a scary movie. I’m fine with that. His friends also respect that he doesn’t want to watch them. I know kids even younger than his age love the scary stuff, and that’s okay. The horror and super natural movie genre is one that some grasp onto early and for some others, never enjoy.

My daughter and I love a good scary film. She and I will definitely be going to see The Conjuring 2! And we’re going to wear our T shirts from the film. Which you can too if you win my Conjuring 2 prize pack.****

In it is:

2 movie passes to see the film

1 Conjuring 2 T-shirt

1 Leather bound and embossed Conjuring 2 journal

2 Creepy tumbler cups with a movie image screened on it

1 Keepsake Conjuring 2 candle

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All you have to do is comment**** below if you like scary movies or not. And if you do- tell me which is your favorite because I might not have seen it and need to check it out!

Grab your Rosary beads and light your candles and check out the Conjuring 2 this weekend in theaters!

****giveaway now closed, thank you for your responses!

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How To Get Perfect Brows- On a Budget

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Brows, brows, brows! That’s all anyone talks about in the beauty community. Twenty years ago eyebrows were the last thing to worry about on your face while applying makeup. Ninety percent of the time, I didn’t do anything at all with them.

I didn’t even start plucking or waxing until my 20s! But now girls (and boys) are grooming brows as young as middle school. [Read more…]

Dear son- don’t rape anyone

frugalista blog dear son don't rape

Because I have to say it. I have to make sure I’ve done my part. I know the Boy to be sensitive, sympathetic and trusting. But what if that’s what other moms have said too? Other moms of rapists who date raped a girl at a frat party? Or who just saw a drunk girl passed out at a friend’s house and didn’t see the harm? What if those moms thought it was obvious and they never said anything?

So we need to say it. We need to tell boys that you can not, absolutely, CAN NOT have any kind of sex with a girl if she’s not given consent. Period. Done.

It’s weird that we even have to define the gray area. Oh, but what if you’re drunk too? What if she’s not passed out but sort of inebriated? She’s just tipsy, is that okay? No. It’s not okay. There is no gray area. It’s black and white. [Read more…]

What’s On My YouTube Channel

Hello readers. Long time no read.

As absent as I have been here on my blog website, it’s only because I have been all over the place on my YouTube channel.

It’s not that I don’t like to write anymore. I do. Sort of. Writing is hard. But I like makeup. A lot. So I’ve found my passion and I’m diving in. Like, head first. Or feet first cannon ball style.

I enjoy the thrill of finding new products. Of opening new packages of lipstick and seeing their glossy, gleaming smooth surface. Foundation excites me. It’s a little bit strange for those of you not in makeup land. I get it. [Read more…]

#A4PaperChallenge: The Internet’s Latest Dumb Trend

I came home from the gym today after dying on the elliptical and killing myself with pull-ups. Not the potty training pull-ups, the kind that you pull yourself up on a bar. I am working up to doing more of these on my own. You know, for when I happen to be on a cliff dangling and need to use my own upper body strength to save my life. I think of these things when I’m falling asleep.

I came home to get on social media and find the latest dumb ‘challenge’ called the #A4PaperChallenge.

Since you are probably unawares of this stupid trend, let me inform you. It started in China where women, girls, females of a diminutive frame stand behind a piece of copy paper, or 8.5×11 regular office paper, to show if they’re skinny enough. “Look, I can hide behind this piece of paper, I’m so skinny!” is basically what they’re showing us.

Paper Thin. Because that's a thing now. Ugh. #A4PaperChallenge

Paper Thin. Because that’s a thing now. Ugh.
#A4PaperChallenge

Since on the Internet, things are separated by seconds and not miles, this trend is finding its way to the States, Europe and God knows wherever else women need to prove themselves and how itty bitty their waists are.

 

Say it with me, “UGH”.

 

Enough with the ‘waist training’ and the paper challenges and the thigh gaps, and the concave stomachs.

We are not women in 1850. This isn’t Scarlett O’Hara days of corsets and 18 inch waists. We are more than that!

Thank you Internet for setting positive body image progress back one hundred years. Stop.

You should want a smaller waist for cardiac health, reducing your risk of stroke, diabetes, and high blood pressure. Not for an Internet trend.

Who started this anyway? Some bored office worker? What’s next? The #rulerchallenge?

I hope not. I decided to try out a few of my own random objects around the house.

 

I would like you to notice that I am mastering #Toasterchallenge

 

Thank you very much. Now go on with your bad ass selves and change the world without silly vanity trends.

Can I hear an Amen?

#A4PaperChallenge #Fail #notgonnahappen

#A4PaperChallenge #Fail #notgonnahappen

#scissorchallenge #notsomuch

#scissorchallenge
#notsomuch

 

#toasterchallenge #nailedit

#toasterchallenge
#nailedit

 

#fryingpanchallenge #likeaboss

#fryingpanchallenge
#likeaboss

 

#cuttingboardchallenge #yougotit

#cuttingboardchallenge
#yougotit

The Pain of Endometriosis

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I wrote last year on Emma’s journey with chronic pain due to endometriosis. It’s still a journey. Since then, she has been doing an amazing job of coping, thriving and overall being an awesome young lady.

Her academic achievements and praise from faculty and random folks not only make me proud, but put me in awe how she can handle so much at such a young age and still come through it with a sense of humor and strength.

She was given a writing assignment in Language Arts to write a poem about an emotional pain. She chose to write about her physical pain and put it in the context of the emotional strain and anguish the pain of endometriosis puts on her.

All I can say is, she broke my heart and made me even more proud of her all at the same time.

I’m sharing this with her permission so that anyone else struggling with the same condition can feel a sense of compassion from a fellow comrade in suffering.

Nothing is more frustrating to a woman with endometriosis when a doctor or even friend says something like, “It can’t be that bad.” ; “Have you tried such and such.” ; “Maybe you should do meditation or yoga.”

Sure thing. We’ve heard it all.

We don’t know what the future holds. Our goal is to keep her comfortable today, while preserving her fertility for tomorrow.

My dearest Emma, I’m so proud of you.

Love, Mom.

 

You think you have felt pain
But you have not felt my pain
My pain is a fire, burning everything in its path
My pain is dark, darker than a winter’s night with no moon
My pain is sharp like the blade of a knife
The pain of hearing you may not be a mother
Your bloodline won’t be passed on
You won’t have a daughter with eyes as blue as the sky
Or a son with hair like silky corn
Your uterus is useless
Yet you don’t want to part with it
For the bright chance you may have a daughter with your sense of humor
Or a son with your freckles
This thing inside me causes such pain yet emits such hope and possibility
This organ I despise may bring me the happiest part of my life
The pain I hate may one day be insignificant because of the love I feel to my children
The love of giving birth to a baby
How strange to have this brought to me by something I hate
My pain is a burning fire
My pain is a candle lighting a dark, cold room
My pain is endometriosis
And my pain will not stop me

-Emma Gallagher

The best gluten-free makeup

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I am not allergic to gluten, but some of my friends are. They can get really sick even if they use makeup products with gluten in them! I’m sure to some of you this is news and you never thought it mattered if there was gluten in beauty products. Well it does matter.

I have searched high and low for what would pass my beauty test. Would I use these products even though I don’t need to? Yes.

So here’s a quick list to reference.

But please watch the video. I go into detail of the products I like and some I don’t, and what to look for from companies as well as what products deserve honorary mention.

I hope this is helpful. Grab a rice cake and enjoy.

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Sources-

http://www.vitacost.com/gluten-free-shopping?isrc=glutenfreesecondarycategory:header

http://celiacdisease.about.com/od/GlutenFreePersonalCareProducts/fl/Gluten-Free-Makeup-Brands.htm

How To Not Get a Cold

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I’m not a doctor. And I don’t play one on TV. But I do know a thing or two about keeping crud away.

Remember in that Seinfeld episode when he was so proud of himself for his non vomiting streak? Well, I’m kind of like that with cruds. Okay, last spring’s food poisoning was not the flu! Sometimes you just can’t help it.

But for the most part (knock on wood) I don’t get too ill. A sniffle. Maybe. But my days of bronchitis and sinus infections seem a thing of the past. Why? Because adamantium, that’s why. No. Just kidding. I think it’s because I’m looking after myself.

Here’s how I protect myself and my family from yucky stuff all year long, not just winter. But let’s face it, winter sucks. How many times are kids sick in the winter? All the time.

Tip #1-

WASH YOUR HANDS! This is not optional. This is required. And here’s how you do it. You come in the house, you set down your purse, keys, phone, and YOU WASH YOUR DAMN HANDS! This goes for EVERYONE. If someone isn’t washing their hands, it kind of blows the purpose of keeping germs at the door.

My husband will be all, comes in, gets a glass of water, sits down, pulls out his laptop, and I say, “did you wash your hands?” And he replies, “Oh, yeah, no. I forgot.” And then I flog him for his lack of cleanliness. Just kidding.

But seriously. Wash your hands as you enter the house.

Tip #2-

GET PLENTY OF REST. I know what you’re thinking. “Fudge you Rebecca. If I wanted sleep I wouldn’t have had children.” I know. I know. But seriously. Not resting is what gets you rundown, your immune system compromised and your body out of whack. If you can feel some crud coming on- go to bed. Say no to that PTA meeting. Don’t take your kids to the bounce house. Let them play in the street while you take a nap. Okay! Just kidding. I know. But do what you can to slow down.

Tip #3

INVEST IN A GOOD QUALITY AIR PURIFIER IN YOUR HOME. This would be the Venta Air Purifier in my home. It’s the best German engineering available. It humidifies, purifies and signifies that you’re smart. Smart because you know that dust particles and dry air are a bonanza in your sinuses during the winter, and you are preventing that party from starting. Clean air and moistened nasal passages are helpful in keeping colds at bay.

 

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Tip #4

Acupuncture. Oh for crying out loud! Stop being a baby and telling me you think it’s hokey placebo stuff or scary needles. My kids have done it. It’s not scary. I do maintenance acupuncture once a month that helps keep my chi flowing like a river through Montana. I don’t get migraines anymore, I don’t have sinus headaches or infections anymore and I can see through things. Ha!

Tip #5

DRINKING LOTS OF TEA. I’m a huge tea drinker. I drink coffee too. But I pretty much keep it to one shot of espresso per day. Tea is everything. I’m drinking it constantly. Oh, and I don’t smoke and I eat kale. Sometimes. But I don’t do weird things with coconut oil or have my lady bits steamed. So I draw the line the line somewhere!

Now. If Murphy has its law about me and I drop ill from some Shanghai flu tomorrow, I will burn this post to the ground.

But truthfully, I just wanted to share with you my wisdom so that you can stay healthy and well.

Cheers!

*********************this is not a sponsored post. All words and opinions and mine and I haven’t been paid to write them.****************************

How To: A Valentines Day Tutorial

I’m not here to tell you how to do Valentine’s Day. No. I’m here to help you look less like the Kraken dragged you out of bed for carpool and more like a fancy pants girl who might break bread with her sweetheart.

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It’s not so hard. It can be done. Not everyone wakes up looking like Gisele. And not everyone has the time, nannies, ‘team’ or bank account to look like Gisele.

So come sit by me at the lunch table and let me tell you a thing or two.

If you happen to score a sitter, and have plans with hubs, that haven’t been dashed because your 6 year old threw up his Goldfish crackers on your iPad, or you yourself got a fever or some crazy flu and can’t spend a night in a swanky hotel kid- free (I know, it’s happened to me) then let me show you how to look amazing, even if it’s cocktails at Applebees.

I start with simple eye cream. Then slap on makeup. Yep.

A quick blow dry of the hair, some sparkly earrings. You’re good. See? So easy.

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Now go watch the video.

 

 

Don’t apologize for the music that moves you

If I had a dollar for every time lately I’ve seen the Facebook status, “I’m ashamed to admit, but I like the new Justin Bieber song”, I’d have enough to buy myself a lot of donuts.

And that got me thinking. Why does anyone need to be ashamed to like a song? Oh. Is it because Justin isn’t cool? He’s just a punk ass punk with too many dollars and Lambourghinis to care about humanity? Well, maybe. I do believe he’s coming around though. But heck. It’s music! Listen to it, enjoy it.

I’m so tired of the music police, the snobs that tell us what’s cool to listen to. “OH you like top 40??? Uh, mah, gah. That is like SOO mainstream. I only listen to music written by starving artists performed in roadside taverns.”  or

“If you don’t know what REAL rap music is, and think Macklemore can out rhyme Tupac, then you just are the devil.”

“Ariana Grande doesn’t deserve to breathe the air that Mary J. Blige breathes”

I’m making these up. But seriously. Quit it. Let people like what they like. If you like Animal from the Muppets, then GREAT! He’s a fantastic puppet drummer.

Even fellow artists seem to diss on each other. Dave Grohl is kinda famous for that. But it’s fine. He’s cool. I mean, he’s Dave Grohl. Yet, if folks think One Direction is fun to fill up their iTunes with, are they worth living? Yes. Yes they are. Kanye is the KING of dissing on folks. I mean, do I need to say more? Poor Beck. Yet, he doesn’t need Kanye’s approval. I think he’ll be just fine. And Taylor? I don’t think she’s suffered since he hijacked her acceptance speech.

And remember, One Direction was this cute collection of boy singers that blew everyone away on Britian’s X Factor. We loved them and their moppy do’s when we didn’t even know them. Oh, but once they get big- well, then it’s cool to hate on them.

Music is personal. It transcends generations. It makes us feel good. Or it makes us wallow in the self pity we want to wallow in. It’s a break-up song. It’s a first dance song. It’s a play list when you go to cross-fit class. It’s what helps you get that last mile on the trail. It’s what your grandma listened to when you came for a visit and it makes you miss her and wish for cookies and peppermint tea when you hear it again. It can be so many things.

It’s subjective. What floats your boat might not float my boat.

McSweetie is a metal head. He loves heavy metal. God. Help. Me. I tried listening to some of it with him on a road trip and got so depressed. Also, I couldn’t understand what they were singing because it sounded a little bit like Grover from Sesame Street. But I don’t put him down for it because I don’t understand Tool or Rammstein. He goes to concerts all the time. It makes him happy. Do I go with him? No. He can have his Motley Crue and his Qeensryche and I’ll just enjoy my Katy Perry and Crystal Gale.

What?? I like Crystal Gayle okay!!

Actually, I like a lot of music. Really random. Mostly show tunes. I LOVE show tunes. Give me a good soundtrack as well. Last of the Mohicans? Muriel’s Wedding? OH my gosh- classic!

Also, I like the Bee Gees, Niel Diamond, Iggy Azalea, Macklemore, Queen, Adele, Culture Club, George Michael, Cole Porter, Annie Lennox, Patsy Cline, En Vogue.

Remember En Vogue? Oh my gosh, every time I hear that song- ‘Free Your Mind’ I want to strut on some catwalk wearing a long gown and wearing my Bitchy Resting Face. I LOVE it!

Should I go on? You can tell my interests are random, traditional, maybe a little sentimental.

My point is, I like all kinds of music. There’s a lot of music I don’t like. But will I rain on those people’s parades? Nope.

Oh my gosh- Don’t Rain on My Parade- Barbara Streisand, Funny Girl, 1968. SO GOOD!! Do I work out to that song? MAAYBE. You betcha. << Sarah Palin where did you come from?

There’s a lot of music I don’t understand. But that doesn’t it make it bad. Did song writers and artists like Freddy Mercury, David Bowie, Paul Simon and so many others, write poetry that takes you places unlike some artists today who seem to just be all about their entourage and production team? Yeah, sure.

But that’s okay. Does everyone like opera? Heck no. But is The Magic Flute some of Mozart’s best work? Yes.

Is Kanye a genius? It depends. Did he write a Rock Opera like The Who did with Tommy, did he compose probably the best movie soundtrack we know in our time like John Williams did with Star Wars? Nope. But THAT’S OKAY.

I need to stop picking on Kanye! My point is, the people that like his music probably don’t like The Who or even get goose bumps when they hear Star Wars.

Remember, it’s subjective. But there’s room for everyone, and everyone’s cup of tea.

So I’ll just be hear listening to Dixie Chicks and Wham! enjoying myself.

Don’t judge.

And stop apologizing.