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Goodbye Christopher Robin- a movie review

“I think we dream so we don’t have to be apart for so long. If we’re in each other’s dreams, we can be together all the time.” A. A. Milne, Winnie the Pooh.

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Domhnall Gleeson as in the film GOODBYE CHRISTOPHER ROBIN. Photo by David Appleby. © 2017 Fox Searchlight Pictures

If you read the Winnie the Pooh stories as a child, or read them to your own children, then you are like millions around the world for generations. Winnie the Pooh is considered the world’s most beloved children’s story. And it’s no wonder since it’s precious and delightful. But it also has a sad and bittersweet origin.

Domhnall Gleeson and Will Tilston in the film GOODBYE CHRISTOPHER ROBIN. Photo by David Appleby. © 2017 Twentieth Century Fox Film Corporation All Rights Reserved

A.A. Milne the author and creator of the beloved bear, was a father of an actual boy named Christopher Robin. Something that I didn’t know until now!

The movie, Goodbye Christopher Robin, by Fox Searchlight Pictures, is the story of Milne and how the Winnie The Pooh books came to be. But it’s also a story on fatherhood, relationships, growing up, and the destruction of war on its survivors.

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A couple of things to mention; this picture is not really for children. Honestly, it’s a little bit dark and sad. Plus it might be embarrassing to have your children watch you bawling your eyes out when it pulls on your heart strings. Something that might have happened to me, maybe.

I’m a sucker for a British period film. I can name all the Merchant Ivory movies of the 80s and 90s and I will forever love any story set in an English countryside. It could be the British girl in me from my dad’s side. He grew up in the English countryside during World War 2, so I feel the pull of my Anglo roots with these stories.

Goodbye Christopher Robin is set after World War 1. Milne a playwright but sent to war to fight for England, comes home from battle with emotional scars and anguish. Shell shock, or PTSD as we know it now, was definitely misunderstood in those days. He and his wife Daphne live in London. His emotional trauma from the horrors of war and being at the front cripple his writing abilities. He wants to write, but can’t figure out how to share words that are useful and important. He decides a break from the loud clamor of the city would be good for his mental and emotional health and moves them and their son Christopher, and nanny Olive, to the countryside of Sussex.

Will Tilston, Margot Robbie and Kelly Macdonald in the film GOODBYE CHRISTOPHER ROBIN. Photo by David Appleby. © 2017 Twentieth Century Fox Film Corporation All Rights Reserved

It’s clear that the ‘English stiff upper lip’ syndrome is apparent in this family. It’s that kind of dynamic where the nanny does more the job of raising the youngster and the parents barely utter an I Love You or give a hug. Something those British are famous for. As Americans we’ve heard of this type of behavior from the Royal Family. But honestly, it’s something my father can tell you about firsthand. There was no nanny for him, but also no hugs. Sad, I know.

While Alan spends time with his son, he partners with his war buddy and fellow illustrator (E.H. Shepard) to watch his son play with his stuffed bear. We see the pages of his books brought to life in the images of little Christopher and his play time. It’s charming and delightful to see the origins of Piglet and Eeyore. But soon we see that the role of Christopher Robin the boy, is overshadowed by Christopher Robin the character in the books. As the stories become a success, he’s paraded around to tea parties, dignitaries and ceremonies. The British people of the 1920s adored not only the stories, but were fascinated with little Christopher. He was by far a celebrity of Kardashian standards, and clearly uncomfortable with the fame that went with it.

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Will Tilston in the film GOODBYE CHRISTOPHER ROBIN. Photo by Ben Smithard. © 2017 Twentieth Century Fox Film Corporation All Rights Reserved

While the people of post war-torn England and Europe embraced the adventures of the Hundred Acre Wood, the Milne family seemed to lose their compass of how to separate celebrity and family life.

As Christopher becomes disenchanted with their lifestyle, and eventually must grow up like boys his age of that time, in a boarding school, we see the effects of what stardom can do to a young person. Mostly how he just yearns for his parents, especially his father’s attention.

Domhnall Gleeson, Will Tilston and Margot Robbie in the film GOODBYE CHRISTOPHER ROBIN. Photo by David Appleby. © 2017 Twentieth Century Fox Film Corporation All Rights Reserved

The movie is gorgeous, thought provoking and surprises you with a punch in the gut and then pulls your heart to the brim of happiness. Tears flowed, both happy and sad while I watched. It was an unexpected experience I will admit. What resonates so deeply is that while Milne was suffering mentally and emotionally, he was giving the world this salve of comfort through his stories about a little boy and his bear.

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If you’ve quoted Winnie the Pooh, then you know his philosophy is very astute for just a stuffed bear. I encourage you to check out Goodbye Christopher Robin so you can feel for yourself the heart and mind of what those stories are made of.

 

 

 

October is Bake It Happen for Breast Cancer

If you met me 10 years ago you would have seen a whole bunch of pink stuff I’d be buying to support Breast Cancer Awareness. Well times have changed and I want to see more than awareness. I want research. I want a cure. Soon I will lose my 3rd friend to Metastic Breast Cancer. Not to mention knowing so many others that have died too or have received earth shattering diagnoses; all while we buy pink shoe laces or eat yogurt thinking that we’re helping.

Since knowing more about what Metastatic Breast Cancer means for the 40,000 women that will die this year from it, and knowing that there just honestly isn’t that much money put into research compared to marketing and CEO salaries from the giant pink machines, I am forever committed to not being pink washed.

This month I am participating in #BakeItHappen to raise money for Metastatic Breast Cancer (MBC) research that can actually save lives. And you can help too! It’s as simple as baking and sharing your results on social media.

Bake It Happen started by two sisters that had lost their mom to MBC. The campaign was first introduced on Shari’s blog My Judy the Foodie, which has an incredibly loyal following, and is dedicated to her mom and her amazing recipes. In its first year, the campaign was shared by influential parenting and food bloggers across the country who lent their support and digital influence to the fundraising effort. Over time, thousands of supporters across the country began to pass on Judy’s culinary legacy and hope for a cure. After five years, the Bake it Happen campaign achieved its goal: to build the baking campaign into a national fundraising movement where supporters would bake and share Judy’s recipes or donate to the cause. To date, the Bake it Happen campaign has raised over $60,000 for breast cancer research and this year, Shari and Stacy are determined to raise even more.

This year, Bake It Happen will be donating all of the funds raised by its fundraising efforts to The Cancer Couch Foundation – a non-profit organization founded by Dr. Rebecca Timlin-Scalera (an amazing woman who has also been diagnosed with Stage IV breast cancer). Rebecca is a neuropsychologist who, upon diagnosis, quit her private practice to dedicate ALL of her time to raising as much money as she can to fund metastatic breast cancer research.  The Cancer Couch Foundation, in just the first six  months, raised over $500k for cutting edge metastatic breast cancer research at Dana-Farber Cancer Institute and Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center. The Cancer Couch Foundation is privately funded allowing 100% of donations and event proceeds to go directly to these carefully chosen research projects to accelerate treatment for MBC. Furthermore, every single dollar is matched and this year they are on track to put 1 million dollars toward this life saving, critical research.

“I will never forget what it felt like to have been initially diagnosed at Stage 4, knowing there is no cure, and I will not leave behind those who are still living with this,” commented Founder Rebecca Timlin-Scalera, PhD.

When I mentioned that soon I will lose my third friend to MBC, I was talking about my friend Beth. She’s a mom of two kids, a wife and a fierce co-founder and advocate of MetUp, a non-profit dedicated to changing the landscape of how we see breast cancer and the people that are dying from it. I am so proud of Beth and all her work.

Right now she is dealing with the shitty effects of brain radiation to keep the mets in her brain from killing her before Christmas. Beth doesn’t sugar coat. Beth is very forthcoming about what her future is. And frankly, she’s pissed she won’t be there for her kids and husband. But her legacy will be that of hopefully saving other women, and men, too.

I got to take Beth to the hospital for her platelets infusion yesterday. Her platelet count is devastatingly low and radiation can’t be done when it’s so scant. So she gets an infusion to fortify herself before her radiation sessions. It takes a couple of hours. I took my #BakeItHappen Pumpkin Oatmeal Chip Cookies to her when I got to her house. This girl likes her baked goods!

If you want the recipe, go ahead and check out the link to BakeItHappen.net.

They were super easy. Did I mention they’re pumpkin? Uhm, hello? It’s October. No brainer!

Pumpkin Oatmeal Cookies

Ingredients are simple. And hey, maybe even, healthy? Sure.

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Fresh out of the oven. Watch out. The family will gobble these up!

 

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Beth and her cookies! I love her face!

I hope I’ve inspired you to do some baking. And maybe I inspired you to do some donating and checking out the organizations I listed. Thank you!

The New Clarisonic Smart Profile Uplift

Would you pay someone to massage your face 27,000 each day, twice a day knowing it would improve your skin tone and reduce wrinkles? What if you could do that yourself for just a few dollars a day? What if I said you could combat 15 signs of aging while you did those massages? You would say I sound like an infomercial, huh?!

Clarisonic has been the leading facial care cleansing tool on the beauty market for many years. I’ve had mine for almost 10 years now. So when they offered to send me their latest device that claims to lift and firm in 12 weeks, I jumped at the chance.

They also were cool to actually give me the time to use the tool and see the benefits without rushing to post about their campaign!  I was not paid for this post. Just thought I’d throw that in as well.

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No filter, no Photoshop. Just my face.

 

What’s different about this device than previous Clarisonics is the massage head feature and smart chip. Two brush heads are included (one for face, one for body) with the massage head, a cleanser, and a charger/plug adapter. The smart chip adapts to what head you have on your device, whether for face or body or massager, and even detects the gentler areas of your neck. It will also tell you when it’s time to replace your brush heads.

For folks not familiar with the Clarisonic, it is a supersonic brush device that cleanses your skin a BAJILLION times more effective than rubbing your makeup and sunscreen off with just soap and water.  It’s more effective than a washcloth or a hand held scrub brush too. And gentler. It’s not an exfoliator. It doesn’t remove layers of the skin. It merely deep cleans the skin.

Over the last five or six weeks I have been using the product and using the massage feature every morning and sometimes in the evenings too. I love that my serums and facial oils are going deep in my skin and actually working.

My face looks plump and radiant and my fine lines are diminishing right before my eyes. Not only that, but you can use this in the shower so it’s convenient. And you can use it on your decollete and neck/throat area. Good bye elephant neck. I’m starting to get that crepey skin around my neck area that looks like an elephant’s foot.

You know what I’m talking about.

Thankfully with the Clarisonic, I plan on making those lines extinct in the next 8 weeks or so.

Bye, bye, crepey elephant leg neck

Bye, bye, crepey elephant leg neck

A before and after photo from the Clarisonic website-

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See for yourself on their website and if you’d like to see more of the Smart Uplift device in action- my YouTube video is here:

 

You can purchase the Smart Uplift from the Clarisonic website or an authorized distributor like Sephora

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My personal feelings on the election result

Hey guys. It’s me. I need to just say a few things to my friends out there about the election. Some of you voted for Trump. Some of you voted for Clinton. There’s a lot of reasons for both. I GET IT.

I just want to share with you, and maybe commiserate with some of my soul sisters out there, on how the election results have felt so personal these last few days.

You’ve seen a lot of people talk about grieving the results. The mourning and sadness that those of us who campaigned for a Hillary win feel. The ones of us who were so ready for our country’s first female president, that it almost hurt, we wanted it THAT BADLY. We choked up at the prospect of our daughter’s daughters feeling our pride. Of the generations of women before us that worked to be heard, we wanted to salute their efforts and achievements.

So let’s go back a few years. Like a hundred years. Women couldn’t own property. We couldn’t have a job without our husband’s permission. In some states marital rape was finally outlawed in 2013. What? 2013. Shake my head. We, along with other marginalized groups in this country, can be treated like 2nd  class citizens. We pay the same taxes, but we don’t get the same wage. We point this out, and we’re brushed off that it’s some left fringe conspiracy theory.

I think my husband learned it’s no conspiracy theory when we bought Halloween costumes together this year. Mine cost more and we were practically the same thing.

The likes of Alice Paul and Elizabeth Cady Stanton literally were beaten and some of them, literally died for the right for women to vote. When I fill in my ballot, I am forever grateful the suffering these women chose to endure for me. For my daughter. Thank you Alice.

Face it. The Constitution was written by a bunch of white guys in wigs that divvied up rights as how they saw fit. Eventually black men got more rights. Years later, women got more rights. Yet it still isn’t all fair and equal in the spirit of the land, despite what the letter of the land shows.

I need you to understand this. And here’s why. And pardon me if you’ve never been a victim of sexual harassment, assault or discrimination. If you can’t empathize with me here, then please try to at least sympathize.

The case of Brock Turner unleashed a whole lot of trigger feelings for a LOT of women and men. The number of sexual assaults on campuses in the US is one in four. When a high profile rape case has the perpetrator only serve 3 months of a 6 month sentence- I have mayonnaise in my refrigerator that has sat there longer than Brock Turner sat in prison- women everywhere are ANGRY. Do you blame us? MARTHA STEWART SPENT MORE TIME IN JAIL THAN BROCK TURNER.

Why? Why in God’s name is this possible?

If in 2012, 26,000 women AND men were assaulted in the US military, of which, only a fifth went reported, and 65% of those who reported it, received retaliation. Imagine the horror when your Commander in Chief- elect believes that ‘assault wouldn’t happen if men and women just didn’t serve together’.

The presidential campaign was fraught with quotes of Trump talking about women’s tits and pussies. A news anchor was fired for giggling along with him and yet the candidate can keep yelling things like ‘Lock Her Up’, when he has pending sexual assault charges against him. His sons think if a woman experiences sexual harassment at work they she should just change jobs. Trump’s campaign manager blames rape on the woman being the weaker sex. The candidate that said a woman needs to be punished for seeking an abortion and picked the running mate that believes condomns are too modern is now at the helm of our three branches of government.

Here’s an example of the patriarchy- more money is spent by Pharma companies on advertising Cialis, than researching Pediatric Cancer. Birth control is still considered ‘recreation’ by some insurance companies and legislators, never mind that it’s actual health care.

I’m sorry if it’s been so annoying watching the Hillary supporters cry and get upset over the election results. But it’s because when we fight and try, when we scream and shout, when we demand to be heard, to feel mattered, we were silenced once again. We thought this would be our time. Our chance to feel the sweet satisfaction of speaking out to show that yes, in fact, we’re here. We’ve arrived. We can run the free world. A black man can be president, and now a woman can too. We’ve put in the work these last few hundred years. IT’S OUR TURN!

And then, nope. A big NOPE. No confetti, or balloons. Glass ceiling- still upright.

The Trump win to a lot of women, was like a violation. It was the boss telling you that you didn’t get the job. The judge giving parole to your attacker. That if you had just been more ‘likeable’ to lead the project, you would have been promoted despite the fact that you have twice the years of experience and job training. It was the narrative we’re used to: to not wear the short skirt to the frat party, to not be so bossy when talking to your colleagues, to just hang in there- there’s always next time. As if our team lost the Superbowl. This wasn’t a sport people. This is life. This for some, was the frayed fabric of a victim’s existence to feel justice.

But feminism is a bad word. It’s angry women yelling in marches while burning bras. It’s considered a hateful position to take because it means you hate men.

Uh, no. It means we want the same things. Not more. Not less. Feminism is the radical notion that women are people

I’m sitting here writing this and I know I’ve only scratched the surface. But I hope you get the idea.

We’re used to cleaning up after people’s messes. We’re used to doing double the work for half the pay. Think of where you’d be without the backs of women to carry those burdens. We will prevail. You thought we were angry before. Just wait.

I’ve got a hammer ready.

 

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Kids, Colds and Snot

Cough and cold season is here, and I’m teaming up with Boogie Wipes and Saline Soothers to help you and your family feel better faster with a Cough & Cold Giveaway.

When Kids Get Sick

From the first sniffle to feeling downright sick, Boogie Wipes has tips, tricks and hacks to guide you through the entire cough and cold season (including great information on how to keep germs from spreading between siblings!)

Click here to read through their cough and cold survival guide and be prepared for the season.

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When YOU Get Sick

It’s bad enough when your kids aren’t feeling well, but when you aren’t feeling well, it’s downright miserable. While there’s no cure for the common cold, Saline Soothers Nose Wipes provide soothing comfort for sore noses with Natural Saline, Vitamin E, Aloe and Chamomile.

Click here to learn more about Saline Soothers and grab a coupon.

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It All Comes Down to Saline

Whether you reach for Saline Soothers or grab your kids’ Boogie Wipes, it all comes down to Natural Saline. The Natural Saline in both products dissolves mucus, while the Vitamin E, Aloe and Chamomile soothe and comfort even the most sensitive skin. Click here to learn more about the benefits of all-natural saline.

Enter to Win!

Stock up on your cough and cold supplies so you’re ready when sickness strikes this season. Complete the form below to enter to win! (Click here to enter if you do not see the form.)

One winner will be randomly chosen to receive Boogie Wipes, Saline Soothers, Burt’s Bees cough drops, Purell hand sanitizer, DavidsTea Cold 911 tea and color-changing mug, plus a $100 Target gift card.

Giveaway ends on Monday, November 21, 2016 at 11:59 pm ET. Giveaway is open to residents in US and Canada over the age of 18. If winner lives in Canada, alternate gift card will be provided of same value.

Indie Beauty Brands You Should Know About

Like any hard core beauty junkie, I love shopping at the big stores: Sephora, Ulta, Nordstrom. But lately in my constant pursuit of cosmetic scores, I find I get my real buzz from the smaller, lesser known brands. The gems of the Internet that you hear from via word of mouth, a hashtag on social media, or a fellow beauty guru on Youtube.

Well, follow my advice and check out these smaller beauty companies that don’t compromise punch for just a name, that blow your mind with pigments and ingredients over glossy packaging or advertising.

 

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Glossier

Glossier is a company started by beauty editors that make ‘easy to use basics that form the backbone to your unique beauty routine.’ Shown above are the basics that make their brand. Although simple, it’s effective. Brow Boy is a cult favorite among beauty gurus to fill in and shape sparse browse or just add fullness to your already ‘on fleek’ brows. See that Balmdotcom? That’s a skin salve made of mostly coconut oil that will moisturize and solve any dry skin need. You want it on your lips, your elbows, your cuticles and any crazy dry patches that spring up on you. Minimal ingredients and straight forward results are what make Glossier unique. Join the bandwagon and check them out.

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SauceBox

You might be a little saucebox if you are rude, impudent and obnoxious. That’s the Old English origin of the moniker this Monther/Daughter company uses to call their company. Expression and no boundaries, innovation and quality without expense; this is their philosophy. The shadows above are from the Etude palette. A soft, neutral and tremendously pigmented eye shadow palette. It’s a staple in my routine. Sold out until November. I know. I’m an idiot for tempting you. But there’s other awesome shadows on their site. Cruelty free and made in the USA, I’m in love with this brand. Check out for yourself my YouTube video reviewing and demonstrating the shadows.

 

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Deciem

Call themselves the abnormal beauty company. And they’re right. They house several brands under their roof and it’s truly like no other company out there. The NIOD Photography Fluid creates a canvas on your face of light and perfection before you put on your makeup. It’s remarkable. It has nano-prismatic blurring ingredients! I’ve featured it on my YouTube channel before and I love the invention, science and beauty that powers this beauty brand. Deciem makes me feel smart for buying their product. They’re the thinking beauty addict’s love affair.

 

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SUVA Beauty

Created by makeup artist, guru and YouTube personality, Shaina Azad. She has worked in Cairo as a journalist and makeup artist for Egyptian brides. She has worked on set in Canada for movies and developed her line to fill a need for pigmented products that didn’t compromise. Her formulas contain their own primer in the shadows. I found this line at IMATS Vancouver and I fell in love with the way the shadows go on and the color doesn’t stop. It’s crazy!  The above shadows can be worn as contour and blush shades as well. It’s multi-functional!

 

If you get excited like I do when finding new brands, then dive in to these companies. Check out my videos if you want to see them in action too! Have fun. And remember- there’s no rules in makeup!

 

A DIY Memorable (and budget friendly) Milestone Birthday Party

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I love a lavish party. But the thought of paying for it and organizing it makes me break out in hives. I also know that my mom detests big and grand affairs but was turning the big 75 this year and wanted something special.

Brainstorming ideas gave inspiration to things like: a trip to Paris, a hot air balloon ride, a sky writer wishing her a Happy Birthday. None of these were feasible.

I kept thinking to myself, “How do I make a fabulous 75th birthday party??!!” And then the answer came to me-

What does any grandparent want? MORE TIME WITH THEIR GRAND KIDS!

So I did what I could. Emma and Owen were available. But her other grandchildren were traveling both abroad and back east. It would rely heavily on Emma and Owen. But we could do it.

First we piled on the sap.

Not the tree sap kind, but the sentimental kind.

We made a list of 75 things we loved about my mom. Our Oma we call her. She’s German. Then Emma cut the list in little strips of paper and we put it in a very affordable apothecary jar (found for cheap at TJ Maxx!). We tied a little ribbon on it.

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I bought an amazing cake at our local bakery, found some glorious, yet not too pricey champagne at Whole Foods, and we ordered vegetarian Vietnamese food from a family run restaurant in town, which I knew my mom would love.

We took a poster board and folded it in half. We found so many old pictures through the years, scanned them and printed them and pasted them in the card.

I found a DIY banner at Michael’s that we also clipped photos too. I also picked up at Michael’s a chalk board sign that we used for the mantle. Using my coupons everything came to around $15!

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I picked out two photos of our families featuring the grand kids and printed them off Shutterfly for just a few dollars. I found 8×10 frames at Bed, Bath and Beyond and used coupons there too. This way she had some prints of her favorite people to display in her home.

In our digital age, sometimes, a good old framed photo of loved ones is just what a 3/4 centenarian could hope for!

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So without a lot of expense or embarrassing fanfare, we celebrated my mom in the best way we could. She loved the hours of hanging out at our home, listening to her family read 75 reasons why we love her, and cherishing the people closest to her.

I also picked flowers from my yard to add to the decor.

If you have a special birthday coming up for a grandparent, or loved one that you want to add some memorable little touches- feel free to borrow any of my ideas.

 

 

Uh oh. Your kid watched a scary movie- now what?

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I remember it a few summers ago. Owen was probably 9, maybe 10. He had been having lots of sleepovers at his friend’s house in the neighborhood. Staying up late playing video games, playing baseball in the cul de sac past dark; it was just easy to let him crash there. What I found out later is that sometimes they would watch a scary movie, something involving the paranormal. The other kids didn’t see the big deal. But Owen has never liked scary. Doesn’t like it when someone sneaks up on him, doesn’t want anything with ghosts or just that creepy factor. He watches all kinds of action and adventure films that don’t scare him. He says when they have fictional fantasy aspects, he can differentiate that it’s just a movie, it’s not real.

But in some paranormal films, the plot and storytelling are just TOO real. And you can really wonder what that sound was you heard downstairs, or are the lights playing tricks on you.

So. What do we do when our kid watches a movie that scares them and now they want to sleep with the lights on?

I have partnered with Grace Hill Media and Warner Bros. to bring you some tips on what to tell your kids and help them through this. Also, I have a GIVEAWAY for the grown ups that LOVE to see scary, intense movies with real plot lines and great story telling. The Conjuring 2 is opening Friday, June 10th and I’m looking forward to this sequel.

• The first thing you need to do is sit down with your child and give them the chance to discuss the film openly. Ask them what they saw, what they thought about it, and how it made them feel. Whatever you do, don’t make light of their fears or dismiss their feelings as silly or immature.

• Once their emotions have been aired, assure your son or daughter that this was only a story, just like the imaginary tales they may have seen in books or other action movies and cartoons. Bad things weren’t happening to real people – they were actors playing a pretend game, like they and their friends do.

• Reassure your child that you, as their parent, are dedicated to protecting them. Let them know that it is one of your most important jobs – ensuring they feel safe and are safe. Reinforce that message with plenty of hugs.

• If you are a Christian family, you can explain that God has promised to be with them at all times, even in the midst of danger. Read some Bible verses together that show comfort and protection. Pray with them about the scary movie and their fears, and encourage them to pray on their own when they become frightened at night. If it seems appropriate, you can also practice some coping techniques with them, like deep breathing relaxation exercises or visualizing a happy place.

What we did for Owen was talk to him about his fears during day time. Waiting until it was right before bed seemed to remind him of the images he saw in the film. I explained that there’s special effects and people on the set that are either waiting behind walls or in a control booth that create the images and situations for us on screen. We see the finished product set to music and it just plays with our emotions. Those people in the movie got up and laughed after the director yelled “CUT” and went to go have lunch. Also, we let him sleep with as many lights on, night lights on and stuffed animal fortresses that he wanted. I also used lavender oils and some aromatherapy and breathing techniques like mentioned above.

He is 13 now and will still not go to a scary movie. I’m fine with that. His friends also respect that he doesn’t want to watch them. I know kids even younger than his age love the scary stuff, and that’s okay. The horror and super natural movie genre is one that some grasp onto early and for some others, never enjoy.

My daughter and I love a good scary film. She and I will definitely be going to see The Conjuring 2! And we’re going to wear our T shirts from the film. Which you can too if you win my Conjuring 2 prize pack.****

In it is:

2 movie passes to see the film

1 Conjuring 2 T-shirt

1 Leather bound and embossed Conjuring 2 journal

2 Creepy tumbler cups with a movie image screened on it

1 Keepsake Conjuring 2 candle

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All you have to do is comment**** below if you like scary movies or not. And if you do- tell me which is your favorite because I might not have seen it and need to check it out!

Grab your Rosary beads and light your candles and check out the Conjuring 2 this weekend in theaters!

****giveaway now closed, thank you for your responses!

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How To Get Perfect Brows- On a Budget

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Brows, brows, brows! That’s all anyone talks about in the beauty community. Twenty years ago eyebrows were the last thing to worry about on your face while applying makeup. Ninety percent of the time, I didn’t do anything at all with them.

I didn’t even start plucking or waxing until my 20s! But now girls (and boys) are grooming brows as young as middle school. [Read more…]

Dear son- don’t rape anyone

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Because I have to say it. I have to make sure I’ve done my part. I know the Boy to be sensitive, sympathetic and trusting. But what if that’s what other moms have said too? Other moms of rapists who date raped a girl at a frat party? Or who just saw a drunk girl passed out at a friend’s house and didn’t see the harm? What if those moms thought it was obvious and they never said anything?

So we need to say it. We need to tell boys that you can not, absolutely, CAN NOT have any kind of sex with a girl if she’s not given consent. Period. Done.

It’s weird that we even have to define the gray area. Oh, but what if you’re drunk too? What if she’s not passed out but sort of inebriated? She’s just tipsy, is that okay? No. It’s not okay. There is no gray area. It’s black and white. [Read more…]