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I’m afraid of trolls.

I’m not talking about the kind with the crazy pink hair or even the ones in Harry Potter or nursery rhymes. I’m talking about- blogging trolls.

Not these trolls. (Couresy of

or this troll.. (courtesy

I don’t like them. Nobody likes them. They are the playground bullies of the blogosphere. The bitchy housewives that snark at you like on a reality TV show.

I am lucky not to have had any trolls yet. My blog is relatively new. I imagine with the more visibility and popularity one gets that trolls are part of the landscape. I know some bloggers out there that have had some on their page. They post critical, nasty remarks. They love to whine in multiple paragraphs of what makes your blog stupid, or rag on your parenting choices or diss comments made previously by other readers.

I will put up my invisibility cloak to the blog trolls. Okay, that’s impossible. But still, I really wish there was a way to hide from them.

Someone’s comment summed it up best on another blog I read. They wrote- “If you were at a party and someone said a joke that was not really funny. You wouldn’t say, ‘that was the dumbest joke I heard. Why do you even bother? Gosh you’re such a moron!’ You would feign laughter and walk away to get another drink or something.” So let’s be courteous page to page like we are face to face. If you did say those things at a party, you’d be invited to less parties in the future.

The Bearded Iris recently posted about a blog post she wrote that was ‘trolled’. Iris took The Pledge to not allow that kind of stuff on her blog, to address it respectfully and promise not to participate in judgement and degradation elsewhere either.

Snoring Dog Studio also had a troll that she starved. They want attention. Trolls love when they can cause a fight. They shouldn’t be called trolls really, they should be called pot stirrers.

So click on the picture on my right hand feed or here: The Pledge , if you are interested. It’s okay to be nice.

I would like to say thank you to all the kind followers of my blog so far. I appreciate your comments and your support. I feel like a rookie in the blog world and there have been so many of you offering your encouragement and praise. And this needy Leo needs that like she needs air to breathe. So thank you.

And I guess, thank you to those that stop by to read and hate it and don’t say nasty things. I appreciate that too.

"If you can't say something nice...don't say anything at all."

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  1. I think that was a very nice posting that will be much appreciated by the on-line community. Was that comment appropriately nice?

  2. What is a blogging troll?
    I saw that pledge you posted and I don’t know if I can take it because I want to still talk crap about parents that do stupid things like post pictures of their kids’ dirty diapers on Facebook. But no seriously – what is a blogging troll? I kind of get it but are you saying people do this in the comments, or that they actually blog to talk about other people’s blogs?

    • Oooh, oooh, pick me, Mr. Kotter. I talk crap about people who do stupid things ALL THE TIME and I ain’t no bully or troll. It’s okay to be opinionated and snarky. It’s NOT okay to tell a blogger in a comment that you think she’s a bitch or that you wish her bodily harm. Trolls hide behind anime gravitars (often) and just argue about irrelevant points. “Pot stirrers” is a very good description, Frugalista! Thanks for the link and the great post. I’m glad you took the pledge! Now you will know what to do if you are ever attacked. 🙂

  3. I was very naive and didn’t know either. Read the Bearded Iris, she’s hilarious- our kind of gal and three different people ‘trolled’ her blog. They wrote mean comments in the comment section and wrote mean things about other comments. For instance- take your post about getting another husband. What if someone wrote paragraphs upon paragraphs how you are such an ungrateful wife. They twist your words and make you scratch your head like, ‘huh’, what did I do?. That’s what trollers do. And they seem to bring friends with them that gang up with them and defend each other. I don’t know if they are bloggers themselves or just really bored people that like to pick fights on the comment’s section of mom blogs.
    Once you read Iris’s post and then see the wiki definition you’ll get it. And it does not mean that we need to stop bitching in our blogs. There’s being humorous, satirical and witty, throwing f-bombs and it’s all good. So keep ragging on all those great people you see in your korean hooker salon!

    • WORD, sister. Nailed it.

    • Okay, I’m going to have to look into that. I see people that do that on Facebook all the time to other people, actually. Whenever I see it happening, I comment the same thing: “get a life!!”

      So I’ll take the pledge with the caveat that I may reserve the right to talk crap about dirty diapers pictures showing up on Facebook. Because there is just no room for that on the Internet.

      • You have every right to talk crap about dirty diaper pictures. Have you actually seen that on Facebook? It’s bad enough when someone posts their homemade chili pic they took in their dimly lit kitchen on their iPhone and it looks like a stew pot of dung. I wouldn’t have ever dreamed of posting something like that. “Ooh looky, Susie Q passed her first meconium bowel movement!”

  4. Thanks for the post and for the link to The Bearded Iris – good information to have. I had not heard of this type of troll before. I am fairly new to blogging and have not yet received a negative or mean comment but know that it is inevitable. Now I know what to do and that I am not alone.

    • I know! I can’t imagine such a violation. I would cry in my martini glass if people said nasty things to me. Just because I’m on the internet isn’t an invitation for people to be mean. People need to remember that. Thanks for reading and I’m glad it was useful for you!

  5. Nice to know I’m not alone in my phobia…..

  6. When you’re right, you’re right ! I try to leave my snarkiness for my blogs, its not right to spread it all over the blogophere. (Well, there is a blog I follow that seems to welcome smart remarks…..)

    • Oh heck yes- smart remarks are welcome! There is a true difference based on what I read on other blogs between the smart comments and the paragraph after paragraph of insults and meanness from these trolls.

  7. I’ll accept a troll if I have a low number of comments on a post.

  8. haven’t as yet had the pleasure. continue…

  9. A lot of bloggers seem to have no real subject matter and are blogging just for the sake of it.

  10. Maybe I’m not controversial enough. I’ve been lucky in my 4+ months of blogging not to have any that I know of. Hope you don’t have any mean trolls on your page.

  11. Don’t we all have the ability to moderate our comments section? I imagine for more popular blogs such as this one, would find that to be a lot of effort so maybe I answered my own question.

    I don’t take trolls seriously. When I’m reading blog comments, which are often just as entertaining as the post itself, I can spot a troll easily and ignore. It does make it difficult to read real comments, however.

    I do hope you don’t consider all negative comments as trolling. I’d like to think if I found something disagreeable about your article that I would be free to voice my opinion. Not that I’d have the guts to do such a thing, but knowing I could would be nice.

    As for blogging for the sake of it, I sometimes find those types of blogs to be the most entertaining. Frugalistiablog is like a box of chocolates – you never know what you are going to get. It’s usually great, but occasionally you get one of those jelly-filled articles that I don’t care for.

    • Not at all. I definitely think there’s plenty of room for any feedback, positive or negative. It’s not trolling just because I don’t agree. It’s trolling when it’s mean.
      Thank you for liking my blogs from time to time. Sometimes there’s a fruit-filled one and you might prefer caramel, so it’s nice you keep coming by!

  12. It’s strangely upsetting to get a comment like that. I got one calling me every name in the book and condemning me for the exact opposite of what I had written in my post. I knew this person was probably a little crazy or at least had terrible reading comprehension, but it hurt to read anyway.

  13. Don’t pay any attention to the haters. Honey badger, right?

  14. Can I go find another drink even if no one told a stupid joke? How about if I just laugh for no apparent reason and go find a drink? And now I’m stupified trying to figure out when I last had a drink…apparently its been too long. Good thing I’m getting together with my Bunco gals tomorrow night. I’m sorry. What was this conversation about?