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Peace in Connecticut

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I don’t always like to blog about controversial topics. I don’t. But I’m a writer. So I write my feelings. My blog is my voice and I try to use my voice with a purpose.  Here are my thoughts on the horrible event at Sandy Hook elementary in Connecticut.

The fact of the matter is- I hate guns. But before all my NRA readers get hot under the collar at me- give me a chance here. I support the 2nd Amendment. Sure. I don’t like it, but that’s my opinion. You can carry a handgun. You can own hunting rifles. But get those mother fucking automatic assault rifles out of the hands of citizens. I don’t know why we don’t agree on that. The assault ban law expired years ago. Why?

So with that said, yes, I’m sure I’ve pissed some people off, BUT- here is what I know we can agree on. The persons who have committed these atrocities in the last year, and the last 10 years, all were mentally ill. Right? Nobody does this is thinking soundly. Clearly we can use these examples as a learning tool. Can’t we?

Politicians, lobbyists, activists, LISTEN UP- we need to stop reacting in a knee-jerk fashion, pointing fingers, spending millions of dollars on lobbying, blaming parties (this is not a party issue, I assure you.) I have Republican friends who hate guns and Democratic friends who own them. We need to get to the root of the problem and fix those who are mentally unsound.

It isn’t easy. I’m not stupid. But why do all the stories of family members and acquaintances to these criminals start with, “I knew something wasn’t right with them…”

I don’t know how you can argue your right to bear arms of a semi automatic firearm to a mother who’s 5 year old was gunned down while sitting in their Kindergarten class. Or tell the surviving children of that class why their teacher’s son came with so much fire power to kill his own mother and their classmates.

This could have happened anywhere, to anyone. It has. We’ve seen it. From Amish communities, high schools, movie theaters, places of worship… there is no place safe in America. There just isn’t.

So this is why I’m asking those that sound off in the argument on this to be kind, to be respectful, to honor those that are surviving the aftermath. Yes, people kill people. But guns used by people kill people too. Terrible things will continue to happen in our world. This event rips out our hearts because we can’t understand it. The fact is, more children die from auto accidents, bicycle accidents, and childhood cancer than they will from a mass shooting. But why does it always feel like there was something that could’ve been done?

30,000 people have friends and family members who are missing them in just this passed year lost to gun violence. My question is for all of us, what can we do to lower that number? What can we do to protect people’s rights, without threatening people’s safety.

What countries in our world have fewer gun deaths and better mental health provisions? What is their system? This isn’t a socialist or capitalist problem. This is an American problem. We need to honestly and thoroughly look at every single possibility we can do to prevent this, or minimize this from happening again.

The date on the calendar, 11 days until Christmas, makes this more painful. I think about the presents I’ve already wrapped for my children that are under the tree, that are unwrapped hidden around the house in special places. Their advent calendars happily opened each morning. I can’t not break into tears thinking of those advent calendar doors that will go unopened in those houses in Connecticut.

My heart is truly broken.

Peace. Truly, and sincerely- peace.

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  1. I have been crying off and on since this broke. Maybe because I am a mother of two little girls and just can’t fight the urge to want to hug them and never let go right now. I agree with you that this was a senseless tragedy and even more awful happening right before Christmas. My heart goes out tho these parents and the little kids that are gone and those that lived through it as well. No words, just speechless.

  2. Well said. I was lucky enough to be at my children’s school most of the day and not have to hear about or think about this today. I was a classroom teacher on 9/11 and for me it is easiest to not watch any media during and right after such incidents, because I need to be grounded for my children and have time to process it all. Reading this post, gave me plenty of food for thought without added drama (music/camera angles) and photos and video that I don’t need to see. …and it was very well said.

    Thank you.

  3. Oh frugie..
    In so many ways I am so far removed from this, but in so many others I feel I am right there in the midst of it. My heart is breaking for those families, but especially for those mothers. My little boy is my everything. My whole world. I fall more and more in love with him each day. I just can’t even imagine something like that happening to him. So vile, So senseless, so tragic.
    My thoughts & Prayers are with them.

  4. Beautiful, just beautiful, and you’d be hard pressed to find anyone who is pissed off about what you said. When it’s about a group of 5 year olds, I think we can probably all agree. I’m glad I didn’t know about this until my children were home with me.

  5. Very well said Frugie.

  6. Thank you for writing this, Frugie. It is heartbreaking, indeed.

  7. Wonderfully said, R. Truly saddened and at a loss right now.

  8. Queen of the Burbs says:

    As a resident of Connecticut, 20 minutes away from Newtown, I cannot express to you the numbness that we are all feeling here! It is truly incomprehensible that this could have happened! We have been shaken to the core! A psychopath will always find guns/assault weapons…regardless of the gun laws in our country!

    Twenty 5-year old kindergartners were taken out in one fell swoop this morning. One entire kindergarten class is gone. When the parents were gathering at the fire station to collect their kids today, 40 parents were told the unimaginable! Each of those 20 families has been assigned a State Trooper for the remainder of the weekend. Can you even imagine (NO!!!) what is going on right now, at almost 11:30pm (EST) in those 20 homes? I’m physically sickened by the events of today!

    I’ve hugged my one child who still lives at home at least 30 times since he came home from school today…and have spoken to my college girl many times throughout the day! It’s all I can do. It makes me feel better. But come Monday morning, I know I have to send my boy back to high school! We have to live. We have to go to movies. We have to go to malls. Evil visited this community today. We have to go on.

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts! Love and kisses to you! Enjoy your holiday! <3

  9. Well put. Wonderfully written words about something none of us should ever have to write about.

  10. Well said Rebecca… Completely agree. People need to stop burying their heads in the sand when it comes to family members/ friends who “just aren’t right”. Mental illness is a real problem, and the mentally ill cannot help themselves! Such a shocking, tragic loss for the families in CT, and all of America. My heart is breaking, and I pray that peace is found.

  11. Thank you for verbalizing the thoughts so many of us are thinking. Something HAS TO BE DONE!

  12. xoxoxoxoxoxo. That is all I can say besides that I love you.

  13. any Lomnicky says:

    I agree 100%. I knew you’d be a voice of reason for me in these days following two shootings…the one in Oregon being 45 min away from me. There is no need for assault rifles. (but frankly I hate all guns and wish they didn’t exist).

  14. Truth. Well done.

  15. Lauri Wood says:

    You hit the nail right on the head! My question is this though…if you KNOW someone needs help, truly needs it, but they won’t accept it, then what are you supposed to do? We can’t force them, so?

  16. Here is my solution:

    GLOGAL ELIMINATION of WEAPONS: Agree to ELIMINATE guns is if 1) All WEAPONS of all types are eliminated, 2) every Country in the WORLD agrees to comply, 3) anyone found in possession of a weapon will be hung by the neck until dead. I think that might solve the “problem”, otherwise there will always be some part of the global society with weapons who could use them with hatred in their hearts against defensless others.

    MENTAL ILLNES: Detect and treat mental illness early and with compassion.

    FAMILY CARE: Limit family growth based upon ability to prove sustainability. Also constrict family violence by rewarding those who report unhealthy situations. IMO, bad families are the root of most dysfunction in society.