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‘REAL’ women have curves. Really? So what are us skinny bitches then?

I’m not saying I’m skinny. I’m not saying that women should be curvy. I’m saying that when we say phrases like, “Real women have curves”-  then doesn’t that just make the skinny women wonder what makes them a real woman?

I know a lot of beautiful women of all shapes. Not morbidly obese. Just skinny to curvy. Short and tall.  Just your garden variety of size 0’s to 14’s.

There was a recent blogger’s Facebook wall, Mom’s who Drink and Swear, that posted a Daily UK article on a size 12 model, which featured a picture of what’s considered plus-size, and the typical size 0 model next to her. Hundreds of comments on the Facebook page ensued of different women defending their opinions on what is beautiful. Curvy women defending their curves, and skinny women defending their skinnyness, athletic women, women who work out, maintain a thin appearance- all of them. They all had opinions. Here’s what: Our culture defines skinny as pretty for magazines, and heavy as unattractive. Pretty is also zit free skin, smooth-frizzless hair, whiter teeth, glowing less pasty skin…. the list goes on. And yeah- it’s pretty much true. So why do we get so up in a tizzy over skinny vs. fat?

Why should the curvy size 14 ladies have to defend the fact that if they are 5’10” being over 160 pounds is the norm. Gals that are a natural size 2, ones that have metabolisms like thoroughbreds, shouldn’t be made to feel they are inadequate because people think they aren’t eating. It’s nobody’s damn business!

Here’s a confession. I don’t want to be fat. I’m a size 6 and it irks me that if I were to walk in to a model agency they would call me a Plus size model because I’m not stick thin. I don’t want to be called Plus Size. I’m average. Thin according to the American average. I like feeling thin. I like the way my clothes look, I like the way I feel. So what? Sue me. But I have no business being a model either. I don’t walk in to Boeing and decide I’d like to start designing airplanes.

I have tall friends that know when they aren’t at their physical best. Or, who are very comfortable being tall, curvy and full figured- not fat. Healthy, proper BMI, all the medical stats check. But their physique supports a curvy figure. Plain and simple.

I think what it is for me, I like the look of muscle. I like when I see muscle definition on my legs or arms. It says strength. It says, I’ve been working on something. I’ve been doing something. I can run a 5k, I can climb stairs, I can swing on a trapeze. It’s a reflection of all the things I’m capable of. When I see flabby flesh, squishy thighs and thick arms (on me, mind you), I think of what I should be doing. How I shouldn’t be wasting my time. That if it means so much to me, why not just make it happen?

So in closing. Skinny people- don’t look down on the curvy gals and say they need to shape up. And curvy girls, don’t look at a skinny girl and say- go eat a cheeseburger. Because I know girls who eat cheeseburgers and still are ridiculously small. Instead, say, ‘hey, your eyes are pretty in that color sweater.’ OR, ‘I love the way you smile.’ OR ‘thanks for laughing with me and not at me’.

Saying something is made real over something else, isn’t really fair and continues the ‘I’m better than you’ cycle. It’s like saying, ‘REAL SMART people wear glasses’, OR ‘REAL dancers are black’, OR ‘REAL good food is only French’. See what I mean?

THIS is what we should teach our daughters. Oh, and our sons, because if they are someone’s husband one day, we don’t want them to make their wives feel insecure about their image. That’s a whole different topic…

 

This woman is gorgeous.

Seriously? Why does she need to be considered 'plus'. How about smokin'?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I'm assuming she's healthy.

 

I'm concerned for this girl though.

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Comments

  1. Good post. I grew up with four sisters and they would totally agree with you.

    From a man’s perspective, a lot of men feel that women put more pressure on each other than men do. Of course, there are those louses out there who ruin it for the rest of us who do accept women as they are, at the various stages of life.

  2. I think the statement, real women have curves, is used to tell women in general that size zero models in magazines are not “real women” – the 99% women. Therefore, the 99% women need not compare themselves, but should accept their body images and be happy about them.

    Btw, is the woman in your last image size negative?

    • I see your point. I just know women personally that must feel a little bit like, ‘hey, I’m naturally skinny and I’m a real woman!”
      Sadly, that woman I believe died from anorexia. This was pointed out to me by a reader after I had posted it. Literally, tragically skinny.

  3. love skinny women…with brains. love curvy women…with brains. continue…

  4. Hear! Hear! It’s especially important to teach this to children for any chance of future perspectives being shifted. A great post.

  5. hi
    From a man’s perspectiv.a lot thing Hear! Hear! It’s especially important to teach this to children for any chance of future perspectives being shifted. A great post.love skinny women…with brains. love curvy women…with brains. continue. I like this site super fine
    thank’s
    Muscular Curves

  6. I have a friend who likes a page called “curvy girls do it better”- and it’s not that I get my feelings hurt- but they rail on skinny girls all the time. Like you, I don’t really think I’m “skinny”- but I’m a “small” size (according to today’s standards I guess) and I work REALLY hard for it, and I don’t think it’s right to these days make skinny girls feeling pieces of crap just like I never thought it was okay to make “curvy” girls feel like pieces of crap back when there was a lower obesity rate in this country. Why does anyone have to “do it better”? If you love your body, LOVE YOUR BODY- don’t hate on other people’s bodies to make you feel like you actually *can* love your own. That’s not love.

  7. I totally get how a skinny woman would be offended by that saying. However, I don’t think you really get it. In today’s day and age, I am seeing many skinny women being categorized as obese, and many curvy (but not overweight, at least not from any reasonable standpoint) women being called morbidly obese. In the latter case, I’m talking about women who include athletic women with nothing sticking out on them that could be reasonably be considered a “fat” feature in any way. When our medical “professionals” are calling in shape women morbidly obese, that’s pretty fucked up. I think the people who aren’t going through that bullshit in our society might want to back off just a bit. Just my opinion.

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